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Sunday, January 25, 2009

Peace Between The Sheets

Genre: Health, Mind & Body
Author:Marnia Robinson
When it comes to making love, we may not be aware of the dangerous situation we are getting into. According to Peace Between the Sheets author Marnia Robinson, most people are severely addicted to the dopamine release that follows an orgasm.

The downside to a dopamine release (which feels great), is that it is followed by a release of Prolactin. Prolactin release typically follows dopamine and is associated with the withdrawl/hangover phases of using drugs like alcohol or cocaine.

Prolactin release is thought to be associated with lower libido, weight gain, hostility, anxiety, prostrate trouble and a general decline in hormone production.

A scientist, Robinson presents research in her book that suggests that the reason people often feel very disconnected from each other after sexual climax is because of the frequency of orgasm in a relationship as well as the quality of sex leading to the orgasm (furious or uncontrolled sex being associated internally with a drive towards an unhealthy chemical crash).

The result is that couples can feel as terrible as a hangover for a few days after every climax. And often enough the negative feelings can be projected onto a person’s partner, causing conflict in other areas of the relationship.

Robinson suggests a scientific understanding for the basis of practicing controlled or delayed orgasms in a relationship. Much simpler and less packaged into an exclusive cosmology than tantra, Robinson’s suggestions are like a contemporary guide to making a sexual relationship less of a co-dependent thing.

If we, as a society, have religiously idolized sex while placing it on a restricted, Victorian pedestal, and if our backlash has been to make sex compulsive, wild and unrestrained, then the balance might be found in managing our big O’s and finally finding peace between our sheets.



  1. This is an interesting post. Thanks for sharing.

  2. You're welcome.

    Who could
    ever think
    furious sex can
    lead to a hangover
    and that a hormone
    like Prolactin is
    the 'culprit'
    to it all...?


  3. There must be.
    Sex, being the most
    welcome equalizer
    with results of gaining
    synergy of mind,
    body and spirit from
    the exquisite release in
    this unique and revelatory experience.

    The good news is that the
    the more one learns about
    his/her own sexual response,
    the more he can manage his
    orgasmic potential,
    and the more it will bring
    both immediate gratification
    and long-term satisfaction.

  4. Balderdash. When sex is good it creates a hunger for more.

    1. Yes, yes, yes; Of course. Don't worry about it, I know what you're talking about, and most everyone should as well. In times when one is excited, happy, positive, one of the things one feels is also to be "in control" of oneself, and never feel like he/she needs to deny any sexual feeling inside himself. Sexual appetite doesn't stop, just because one gets into that positive spirited attitude! On the contrary, one feels more comfortable than ever with his sexuality, and have a higher appetite than usual.

      I tend to believe a great orgasm is like getting the whole enchilada or like a pleasant meal of whole, fresh, locally grown foods. There are many different ways to prepare it: cook and steam, slice and dice, but in the end, perhaps the best way to savor it is to quit fussing over it and just bite right into its raw goodness and get down to ENJOYMENT.

      Then again, regardless of whether we agree or not. Here's my wish for sexual fulfillment for every person on Earth.